When you start any new chapter in life, it is important to make sure to close the door to the last one and start fresh. That doesn’t mean you have to forget your past ever happened, but there is a difference in taking valuable lessons from the past and letting your past haunt you and dictate your future. After addiction, it is important to focus on the future and what lies ahead.
Becoming Your Best Self After Addiction
It happens to lots of people in recovery. They are so happy to be sober, but now that they are they have tremendous guilt about the past. It can become all-consuming and have a negative impact on their present and future. If you find yourself stuck in thoughts about what happened when you were in active addiction, you need to stop dwelling on those things and move on.
After addiction, it is important to focus on all of the positive things you have done to change your life for the better. Sure, you may have moments when you think about the past, but 99% of the time you should be thinking about what you can do in the present moment to be your best self. Learn how to put the past behind you. If you need help, work with a therapist or doctor to help guide you to be able to make the past stop dictating your future.
This is another way in which going to treatment gives you an advantage. First of all, you’ll be able to diagnose and treat any potential mood disorders like anxiety that could be causing you to overthink your past. You’ll be given the tools you need to stay sober after addiction, and ways to stop your thoughts from spiraling out of control.
Even with all of the tools in place, it is important to have ways to ground yourself and make sure you can re focus on what is important. And, what is important is being your best self in the current moment! To be your best self, you want to focus on putting your best foot forward. And, to do so, you can’t keep thinking about what you did wrong in the past, but rather make sure you are being your best possible self in the present.
Five Ways to Be Your Best Self
Stay sober. After addiction, this always comes first and foremost. Just stay sober. For today. And when tomorrow comes, you’ll stay sober for today too. One day at a time.
Do things you love to do. Naturally, this will make you happy. Whether your thing is yoga, boxing, fishing, reading, or swimming make sure to find a way to do it every day and pursue the things you love.
Find your purpose. Maybe you have always felt compelled to help others. If that is the case, start by volunteering for the homeless. Putting your thoughts and goals into actions is extremely rewarding and can give you a sense of purpose.
Believe in a higher power. This is not about religion, but rather about believing in something bigger than yourself. It can be a belief in god, or nature, the sky… whatever you want it to be. Knowing you are part of something bigger is both humbling and empowering.
Keep doing the right thing. Each day, focus on being a good person. Smile at a stranger. Hold the door for someone. Go above and beyond at work. Call that family member or friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. It will be worth it.
Whenever you find yourself stuck in the past, just rewire your brain to think about being your best self in the present moment. After addiction, it is important to put that chapter behind you. Don’t forget it, but also don’t drag yourself through the mud and beat yourself up about it.
If you or a loved one needs help with an addiction, here at Diablo Valley Drug and Alcohol Services, we’re here for your support. Check out our website to learn more about how we can assist you in healing your life from addiction or give us a call today at (925) 289-1430.